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Increasing Your Motivation to Become a Successful Business Owner

Deciding to go into business for yourself can be rewarding for some. For other people, the thought of being your own boss is a huge benefit. But in reality, knowing what you are getting into is hard in the beginning. It can seem easy, but in fact it takes a lot of work and dedication. Some people lose their motivation over time and trying to push through slumps and low times can be tricky. To help business people stay motivated along the bumpy road ahead, here are some things to keep in mind.

What De-Motivates You?

Staying motivated can be hard since most home businesses fail within the first year. When things are rough, it can be hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. You’ll need to determine a plan of attack to push through. Make a list of the things that discourage you or de-motivate you. Tackle these things head on and focus on things that will motivate you. Focus on your passion and what made you want to become a business owner in the beginning.

Focus On Goals

Make a list of goals you have for yourself as well as your business. Where do you want to see your business 5 years from now? Spend some time everyday focusing on these goals and visualize yourself accomplishing them. Act as if you have already achieved these goals. This can be a powerful motivator and can help your business succeed in the end.

Surround Yourself with Positive People

Try to surround yourself with other successful investors or business people. This can help you hang on to positive energy and a positive attitude. Avoid people who are negative as this can only bring you down more. While it can be hard to avoid negative people at times try to avoid it as much as possible. If you are suffering with low motivation this can be a recipe for disaster. There are home business boards that you can become a part of where you can find tips to staying on track even when the going gets tough.

Set Deadlines

Every investor or business entrepreneur has slumps and for some taking some time off is all that’s needed. At the same time, try to set deadlines for yourself. Set a day or two aside to completely detach from your business to regroup yourself and to get refreshed. After that get back on track and you may find that it becomes easier to get motivated about your business again.

Over time, as you begin to see your business succeed you will find that staying motivated is a lot easier than you thought. It’s easy to slack off when things aren’t going as planned. In the business world there might be days where things don’t go as planned. Having dry spells is a part of it and the most important thing to do is focus on why you became an investor or entrepreneur in the first place.

Stress Management Tips to Help Freelancers

Stress Management Tips to Help Freelancers

Being a freelancer can be stressful at times. Not only is work inconsistent, but there are some projects that consist of tight deadlines. The inconsistency of income can be enough to stress anyone out, especially if this is your only source of income. It takes a lot of marketing and getting your name out there to develop a steady flow of income. Staying as stress free as possible will help you become successful over the course of your career, and while it’s easier said than done, here are a few tips to help you stay calm and as stress free as possible.

Relax

Again, while it’s easier said than done, relaxing will help in several ways. Stressing out over a dry spell in work will do you no good in the long run. Take some time out of your day to relax. Have a cup of coffee or practice relaxation techniques such as meditation or Yoga. Taking a walk will also help and can help you get exercise also.

Deep Breathing Techniques

Taking deep breaths can help you as well. If you find that you’re overworked or feeling overwhelmed, consider taking some deep breaths for about a minute. This can sometimes help you feel more relaxed and can help you feel at ease again. This can also help ensure your brain gets enough oxygen.

Eat Healthy

Eating a well-balanced diet can help keep your energy levels up and can prevent headaches from a lack of sugar and valuable nutrients. You’ll also be able to focus more which can prevent stressing out over meeting deadlines. You’ll be able to focus on tasks at hand allowing you to meet deadlines while networking in new ways.

Keep a Positive Outlook

For the most part, anxiety comes from negative thinking. However, by thinking positive you can eliminate anxiety and stress. You’ll be able to focus and concentrate more while still dealing with the negative that comes from being a freelancer. Being in business is stressful on its own, but having negative thoughts haunt your mind every second is not going to do any good.

Let it Go

There are several things people worry about that are far beyond their control. You can’t control everything, so let go of it.

Practice Time Management

Find what works and stick with it. If you can use an online tool use it to your benefit. Managing your time better allows you to get more done. It also takes away from stress levels if you realize you slacked off and didn’t complete everything you needed to. Take breaks during the day as well to help keep a clear mind.

Get Adequate Rest

Sleep is important for everyone, and as freelancers it’s important to get adequate rest to keep you going through the day. Skimping on your sleep often leads to restless days and fogginess when it comes to trying to concentrate on a task.

By practicing these stress management skills you can better manage your time and you will begin to see a difference in your overall success as a freelancer.

Overcoming Low Self-Esteem and Feeling Great

Do you ever watch news about the stars and almost feel happy when something bad happens to them? It’s like they are no longer superior to us anymore and maybe they can have a taste of what the rest of the world is going through. This is something that’s natural and is common in a lot of people and people often times like to see other people fail, but all this does is show that we have low self-esteem.

There are many people who want to feel more superior and to keep people below them, and this becomes a bad habit. We do whatever it takes to keep them below us and we continue to look for failure and weakness. We take pleasure in hearing how bad things are for them and how they may be struggling financially. However, observing other people can help increase your self-esteem and can help you build a better life that is full of confidence.

For people with low self-esteem it becomes hard to relate to other people who are in a better situation. It’s hard to see the beauty in gifts each person can offer or share with you. This leads to people looking for ways to remain on top and seeing all the good in another person can infuriate you to no end at times.

Building Confidence

There are a number of things that you can do to help increase your confidence. To start with, put on some music that is uplifting. If you have a night out planned with some friends, put on some music that is going to cheer you up or get you pumped up. This is going to be temporary but for that evening your confidence is going to be through the roof.

Make a Plan and Follow Through

This might just be one of the most important aspects to building confidence. When you make a plan to do something, stick with it no matter what it takes. This will help you see your abilities and you will see just how motivated you are to reach a goal you set your mind to. This can instill lasting confidence in yourself.

Exercise

This makes a huge dent in self-confidence. When you exercise it increases the “feel good” hormone putting you in a better mood all together. You also can transform how you look which obviously is going to increase your confidence especially if you have unwanted pounds to lose.

Face Your Fears

This is not one of the easiest tasks to do but is something that can help build your confidence up. Facing a fear or doing something you would normally never do can take your confidence a few steps up. You often times hear the saying “there is nothing to fear but fear itself,” so why not tackle one of yours? Have a hard time speaking in public? Host a party and make a speech.

Building confidence and overcoming low self-esteem will take time but with the right tips and advice can be done. You’ll feel a lot better about yourself which is going to affect how others treat you as well.

What Does It Take to Have a Successful Online Business

Have a successful online business needs a combination of several different requirements. It is not only about the techniques, tools and having enough capital to run the business. You can have everything one needs to run and promote an online business, but still you can be unsuccessful. Indeed, what most people consider as the necessary requirements to run an online business, are the less important things. There is one thing which is the most important. It is the enthusiasm and will to run and promote the business.

On 2002, I joined the most famous affiliate program at that time, SFI, or Six Figure Income. I was too enthusiastic and hard working. I developed too many sites for different keywords, promoted them and all of them got ranked on the first pages of the different search engines that were important at the time; Yahoo, Altavista, and later Google.

I succeeded to refer about 25,000 to the program. I had already developed a system that each of my referrals could use to duplicate what I had done. I designed websites for many of them and thought them to promote their sites. You think how many of them could achieve what I had become able to achieve?

None of them.

Only few of them promote their sites for a while and could refer some others to the program. However, even those few people stopped working after a while. Why?

They were not enthusiastic about what they were doing. They thought a business should succeed overnight and start making a lot of money after a short while. When they saw that they had to keep on working, they got disappointed and gave up. Whereas if they had kept on working like what I did, now they had a business that made money, and also a lot of knowledge and experience. They gave up so easily.

Being successful is all about working too hard to reach the goals. You can create everything from nothing when you are hard working, serious and enthusiastic. You will not get anywhere when you don’t bother to work, even if the world supports you.

What was the last time you decided to work very hard to achieve something important in your life?

Are you serious enough to make a difference in the others’ and also your own life? If the answer is yes, then have you worked hard toward this goal, or you just think about it and you don’t bother to move?

Focus one something, work on it very hard, and reach it. If I could do it, you can do it too.

How to Be Articulate

Ask yourself how do I achieve articulacy? Articulacy is gained through interaction with people with an intellectual approach of the same language over a period of time. It comes in an art format and should not be taken lightly. Articulacy is when we are able to manipulate words and speech in a corrective and effective way.

Articulacy is obtained through effective communication. Effective communication is when you are able to captivate an audience by engaging them through word power. There is power in words, if you possessed the knowledge and the ability to use it to your advantage wisely. Many great men and women have gained power and prominence by being articulate.

The way you weigh your words can create a lasting impression in someone’s mind for a long time, may be forever. In my opinion the way you speak, it’s the way you write and articulacy tells a lot about your personality. People who are articulate often carries a distinguish air in their demeanor. They are achievers, they can do great things. Barbara Walters, television personality and journalist, Oprah Winfrey talk show host, philanthropist and billionaire, Barack Obama the President of the United are regarded well spoken achievers.

Articulacy is when you have an electrifying personality and can deliver your speech smoothly and correctively. They can hold an audience and is often the envy of many as some don’t possess that natural fluency in language, God’s given talent and confidence. Some people if given the task will get stage fright and lose grounds. Their demeanor is a trunk load of confidence that make them exceptional and special. People treat them in that manner. They demand respect, deriving from their attitude. People with articulacy pulls people close to them, they are like magnet to steal. They have confidence, they may not have fear of a large number of people in a full room or auditorium.

An articulate one can also wear many hats; they are poets, song writers, journalists, lawyers, doctors, authors and so on. In my view they dominate the professional world and rides corporate ladders with confidence and style. They often possess style and class and are also an intellectual force that may be hard to beat.

If you have an articulate one in yours surroundings, you might feel honored to have that person in your life. It is pleasure to have such person on your side. They are the product of purpose and meaning. With all those great qualities some credit them for good standings and they are known to be among the aristocrats and often stand out among the elite, they have to be able to speak well. To be articulate, you have clarity in your speech and be educated is a way to gain and maintain prominence. Education holds the key to someone with such caractistic and much caliber. It’s an asset to be articulate.

It does not hurt to be associated with someone with all that good qualities mention above. It would be good to rub shoulder to shoulder with one of prominence, word power and intellect. It just won’t hurt to be associated with an articulate one. In my view it won’t hurt to marry someone articulate either. Everyone is deserving of good, being associated with an articulate one and out of that association it can prove beneficial to one’s growth and development. Out of that union there can be the birth of a overwhelming responsive motivation which with the use of words could encourage the opening of many doors.

Being articulate can also mean being accountable and responsible for the words used. If you practice those traits you learn to acquire competency and control of the usage of words when use inappropriately, you use less or none at all. There is so much to accomplish by being articulate, there is no limit to such skill because once gained it stays with you always. It’s like fine wine once stored it become better with age.

Effective articulacy is the ability to relate and capture the art and mind of different people regardless of race, color or creed. They listened when you speak. When captured by articulacy one will show their appreciation by giving a standing ovation or maybe if they so captured they are driven into the land of nostalgia. Greet open mouth or with a beautiful smile.

The clarity of words spoken is important in articulacy. Being clear lends ears to greater listenership, open a wider audience. What can one gain from a wider audience? It means people power and power through your audience can mean network. The bonding of people through articulacy enounces wealth.

Words describe what you are, who you are and where you are at. It’s like a template. A lay out format of the way you speak and how you speak. In true form it makes and breaks. If use well it like a flowers in the garden of Sharon. It can be looked upon the way one sees it. Simply beautiful, simply graceful that can leave a sweet taste in ones mouth, articulacy.

How to Become More Outgoing?

Who does not want to enlarge his social circle and become more outgoing? Who does not want to get rid of his loneliness and shyness? Who does not want to become more awesome than he already is? Learning how to become more outgoing and applying that lesson to your life is a key to achieving success in your social life.

You might have heard people talking that being outgoing and social is all about being confident, that’s a misconception. The truth is, to become more outgoing requires practice and is much easier than building one’s self confidence. This article concentrates on how to feel comfortable while interacting with strangers and how to develop the attitude required for it?

Prepare Lists

In order to keep yourself reminded of and focused on, the goals to be achieved, it is always helpful to make a list of skills you have worked on and things you need to work on. Don’t feel like a nerd or a stupid keeping a journal or updating a mind map if you know how to keep one, systematic way of finding out one’s problems and getting rid of them is the way awesome people do it. Since nobody is going to read your list, do not be hesitant of writing something that you think is dumb and not worth sharing with others.

Take One Step at a Time

You need to find a way to put yourself out there. Since you can’t change yourself from an introvert to a super-social being at once, it is not as easy as to switch off a button and the light is gone, you would need to take one step at a time and stick to your plan of self-improvement.

How would Starting a Blog Help?

Starting a blog of your own helps improve your confidence level and communication skills while posing no threat to your privacy. No one knows who you are and yet a great number of them read your articles and share their opinions about a particular subject in the form of comments. While allowing you to broaden your vision of the topic of your interest, it allows you to make healthy discussions with total strangers and thus helps make you more outgoing.

Don’t worry about the topic of your blog, exploit the complete anonymity to your advantage and write about the things you feel comfortable writing about; write about random things; write about your daily experiences. And if you find it hard to write about random things, read other people’s blogs. While it is a great way to find ideas and learn more about blogging, it also allows you the opportunity to befriend other bloggers and interact with them.

Become More Out <Space> Going

Since the goal is to gain confidence in the real world encounters and having a blog could not allow you more than a confidence online, you would need to apply the same awesomeness in real world. It can get really difficult to talk to strangers for someone who is not used to it. Start with having brief conversations with shopkeepers you get to meet daily while shopping for your breakfast, smiling at a guy at gas station while he’s refilling your car’s gas tank and creating such situations that allow you overcome your fear of social situations. To get rid of your self-imposed social limitations, you would need to take risks.

Do not get concerned about what people think about you and do whatever you want to do. Wear whatever wild clothes you want to wear, eat whatever food you feel like eating. You can’t get everybody like you because that is impossible to achieve even for those with very good social skills. In order to get rid of your shyness, get rid of such self-imposed constraints.

Try mentally rehearsing and preparing yourself for the upcoming social situation before allowing yourself face one, it’s really helpful and effective.

Observe People

Try to observe people, pay attention to how they behave and interact with each other. Take interest in how they respond to a particular event of success or failure. Compare their body language, tone and voice while they interact, with yours. Learn what kind of body language and tone is most suitable in what kind of circumstances, what kind of response to a situation makes the person you are interacting with feel comfortable and what kind has an opposite effect.

Pay as much attention as you can while you make conversation with others, learn from the experiences and make sure that you don’t repeat the same mistakes again.

Engage in Social Activities You Enjoy

One of the reasons introverts stay away from socializing is that they don’t find the social activities going on around them interesting. Becoming an extrovert does not require you to make yourself a party animal like your other friends, some people just find all that repulsive and it is normal. In order to become more outgoing, you need to find people with the interests and hobbies matching yours, you need to connect with those who like indulging in the activities that you find enjoyable and interesting. And how are you going to find such people? For that, you would need to go out and take some risks as I have mentioned before, you can find the people you are going to like in clubs, volunteering classes, seminars, anywhere.

Lifting Other People’s Fear will Help You Get Rid of Yours

Some people are frightened of spiders while some fear heights. One very good approach that I have always found to work when it comes to getting rid of one’s fears is, to focus on lifting other people’s fears and putting them at their ease. Not everybody around you has found the peace of his/her mind, even those who have spent their lives earning a large fortune and have got successful in it have lost a lot in the process. Help the anxious ones in getting rid of their anxiety, help the disturbed minds feel more relaxed, it’s the best formula that will indirectly help you feel relaxed, comfortable and confident.

Finally, all these tips are helpful if and only if you want self-improvement and if you really are willing to improve your social life, you can come up with your own innovative ways of making yourself feel comfortable in socializing with others.

Are You Successful in Your Life?

A feeling of success is a very personal one. No one can really judge whether you are a success or not. Time may prove you were a wonderfully successful person, just as it regularly reveals that the world’s admired idols had feet of clay. To this extent it is impossible for any psychological slide-rule to produce a measure denoting your success or failure as a human being on the standards set by society. What it can do is to indicate whether you yourself have fulfilled that basic principle of personal success ‘This above all to thine own self be true.’

1. In your honest, private opinion do you smoke and/or drink more than you really believe is reason able?

a. Yes.

b. No.

c. You’ve never bothered to consider the matter.

2. The main reason why people buy a colour TV set

a. to impress their friends?

b. to enjoy the entertainment science now provides?

C. t have the happiest possible home life?

3. If a friend of yours emulated Somerset Maugham’s famous character and left his ordinary job to go and paint pictures on a remote Pacific island would you consider him:

a. an irresponsible fool?

b. a courageous and ambitious man?

c. obviously going crazy?

4. Which of these phrases do you consider to be most true?

a. Events produce the man to mould them.

b. The man of power contrives to. produce the events he wants.

c. Events and the people involved in them are just quirks of Fate.

5. When you are involved in a dispute the best’ policy is:

a. compromise?

b. forceful argument?

c. retreat in order to fight another day?

6. A means of livelihood in which one is completely self-employed is attractive mainly because:

a. one’s true abilities are given full rein?

b. there’s no one frustrating your efforts?

c. it’s the fastest method of making a lot of money?

7. Faced with the tragic situation of suffering from an injury or disease immobilizing your legs but causing no danger to your life would your greatest dread be:

a. the impossibility of getting about as much as you did previously?

b. the trouble you would give to those caring for you?

c. the destruction of all chance of living a useful life?

8. You win $10,000 in a football pool. Would your first major expenditure be on:

a. travel?

b. gifts to charity, friends, and relatives?

c. the purchase of security in a business, house, shares, etc?

9. In your opinion the happiest period of a human being’s life is:

a. in childhood?

b. as a young adult?

c. whenever ambitions have been fulfilled?

10. The greatest gift a baby boy can enjoy as a birthright is:

a. wealth?

b. brains?

c. health?

Score:

1) a. 10, b. 10, c. 0

2) a. 0, b. 10, c. 5

3) a. 5, b. 10, c. 0

4) a. 0, b. 10, c. 5

5) a. 0, b. 10, c. 0

6) a. 10, b. 5, c. 0

7) a. 10, b. 5, c. 0

8) a. 0, b. , c. 10

9) a. 0, b. 5, c. 10

10) a. 0, b. 10, c. 5

Marking on this questionnaire can only give vague results.

Anything from 65 to 100 indicates that you feel you are reasonably successful and, more important, are full of optimism for greater success in the future.

45-60: you are probably young, and regard success as a distant blessing, but you privately believe that you are on the right route.

40 and below: you may feel you are doing well enough in one of the basic activities of life: social, family, or career. But you have forebodings about the other two. The solution shouldn’t be all that difficult to discover.

What Job Should I Do? 10 Simple Question Quiz

There are literally many thousands of different jobs available in our complex civilization. Whether you do or don’t enjoy your work is not so much a matter of the actual routine as the purpose of it. A clerk in a massive Government ministry does much the same work as a clerk in a film studio, but the former may envy the latter for his glamorous life. The counter assistant in a chain store is using abilities precisely the! same as those of a saleswoman in a Parisian fashion house, but neither would readily regard their work as interchangeable. ft’s possible you have special talents you have failed to exploit, but it is much more likely that you are in a potentially attractive job; the usual trouble is that you fail to realize what can be made of it.

1. If you inherited or won $200,000 would you:

a. retire and enjoy yourself?

b. buy or organize a business involving your pre sent experience?

c. buy a better house, lots of luxuries, bank the balance and carry on in the job you now have?

2. ‘Men must work and women must weep.’ This old proverb is:

a. true?

b. rubbish?

c. true for past generations and today’s underprivileged nations?

3. A traveller approached three workmen on a large building site and asked them what they were doing. The first man said, ‘getting 12s. an hour’, the second, ‘mixing concrete’, the third, ‘building a block of fiats’. If you had been working with those men, would your answer have been the same as that of:

a. the first man?

b. the second?

a. the third?

4. In future the ideal means of earning one’s living would be:

a. to work normal hours for three days a week?

b.  to work five days a week and have three months holiday annually?

c. to work on either system and have a second job in the spare time available?

5. You meet a pleasant family on holiday who are obviously well off. Is your first—maybe unvoiced—question about the breadwinner:

a. what does he do?

b. how much does he en?

c. does he come from a wealthy family?

6. In your opinion is the most potent source of industrial trouble:

a. the laziness of the employees?

b. the greed of the employers?

c. the ruthlessness of business competition?

7. Your first job: did you take it because:

a. a youth employment officer or other influential adult suggested it?

b. it paid better than others you had in mind?

a. it was concerned with an activity which interested you?

8. All those stories of errand boy to millionaire omit adequate details of the secret success because:

a. they fail to describe- the man’s tremendous efforts?

b. they do not mention some of his sharp, even dishonest, practices?

c. they ignore the financial backing he luckily got early on in his career?

9. The real measure of success in a career is:

a. the money earned?

b. the reputation gained?

c. the personal happiness of the person involved?

10. Most people fail to attain their ambitions of their youth because:

a. there’s not room for many at the top of the ladder?

b. only a minority are geniuses?

c. it’s hard for a human being to keep on trying?

Score:

1. a. 0, b. 5, c. 10

2. a. 0, b. 5, c. 10

3. a. 5, b. 0, c. 10

4. a. 0, b. 10, c. 0

5. a. 10, b. 5, c. 0

6. a. 5, b. 5, c. 10

7. a. 5, b. 0, c. 10

8. a. 10, b. 0, c. 5

9. a. 0, b. 5, c. 10

10. a. 5, b. 0, c. 10

If you score 90-100 there was no need for you to answer the questions; you are—and you know it—in the only job where you could both be happy and achieve success.

75-85: you are well set on a good career, but you need to forget some of those might- have-been day dreams which are not really practical.

65-80: like the majority of people, your job is just a means of livelihood, and most of the time you regard it as nothing more; you need to visualize where you could be with some extra effort in it five, ten years hence.

45-60: lack of progress is misleading you into thinking that maybe some other occupation might be more satisfying.

40 and under: work’s just a burden, isn’t it? Why not make a change to something that really interests you?

How to Manage Your Time and Daily Routine Better

Whatever you think about the dirty tricks or generous gifts Fate has bestowed on you, there is one thing you enjoy on precisely the same terms as everyone else: It Is Time.

You have the same allocation of seconds, minutes, and hours to enjoy each twenty-four hours as the most successful do-er or the most feckless do-nothing. Yet it is pretty certain that you resent the march of time, as if its tempo applied only to you.

That is a natural human reaction. The restless spirit of man would dearly love to control time in the same way that we have annihilated distance. As this is impossible outside the fictional pages of works such as H. G. Wells’s Time Machine, the only feasible solution is to extract every benefit from the time we have.

Few people do so, and those few are the happy and successful human beings who are admired and envied; They never complain that they have simply no time to do what they intended, and do not go to the other extreme by getting bored because time hangs so heavily.

As No. 1 priority in getting your life on the right lines, check what you do with the time at your disposal. A few calculations will indicate what is, perhaps, the surprising fact that only a proportion of the twenty-four hours in each day is used for constructive activities of the kind which will produce that god-given serenity of knowing that you are really achieving something worthwhile with your life.

Time ManagementFirst, about nine hours will be spent resting or sleeping. Basically this period is liable to very little modification. The human machine needs this regular bout of repair and recuperation. Sleep in regular doses cannot be modified into less regular but longer periods. In other words, you waste time and prejudice your health and alertness if you cut sleep to three hours per night for three nights and then try to compensate by lying in bed for twelve of fifteen hours. Regularity in sleep, as in other facets of your life, is the ideal. There is really no substitute for it.

The duration of sleep is a personal matter. ‘Eight hours for an adult, ten for a child, and twelve for a fool’ has an element of truth in it. because energetic adults seem to require less sleep than those without much ambition or the will to work towards a goal.

Many people sleep—or lie in bed—longer than health requirements justify. Custom and convention send them to bed before midnight, and the next day’s duties demand that they get up before eight o’clock.

There is no real justification for regarding the hours just before and after midnight as natural times for sleeping (primitive man may well have been a nocturnal animal), and no evidence that eight hours are the essential minimum.

Many successful people have deliberately disciplined themselves to sleep for only five or six hours a night. Neither their health nor their life span are evidently harmed by this, and of course, they have a bonus of two or three hours of wakefulness in order to get on with the job of successful living.

First thing, therefore, in analyzing what you are doing with your time allocation is to check whether you are wasting some of it doing nothing in the belief that you need this idle interval in each cycle of twenty- four hours.

You will have noted that the estimate of nine hours per day includes resting as well as sleeping. The former is probably the most insidious time-waster of all. Consider how frequently every day you sit or lie doing nothing. Five minutes before and after meals, ten minutes hanging around until it is time for something to happen. a quarter of an hour wondering whether to stretch and go to bed, and as long putting off the action of getting up. If you want more time to do things, here is an hour or more for the taking, and you won’t notice the lack of recuperative rest.

For the majority of people actual work in order to earn a living occupies only an average of six hours per day. Competition and discipline will probably ensure that these six hours are ostensibly busy ones, and for most of us there is nothing to be done about them. But it is worth thinking whether each minute of those six hours is usefully employed from a personal viewpoint, or whether many of them are wasted in devising ways of evading activity. This may be a mildly satisfying kind of fraud on one’s employer, but it neither aids one’s own progress nor bolsters one’s self-esteem.

Three hours are involved in necessary movements, ranging from dressing, washing, walking around the home, and travel to and from place of work and social destinations. If more than three hours are frittered away on these activities, then your time is being wasted.

The most likely large-scale waste will be on travel to and from work. Past and future generations would be amused and amazed that, having invented methods of high-speed travel, twentieth man then moved ten, twenty, thirty miles from his place of work and shuffled to and fro at an overall speed lower than that of a rider on horseback. Millions of people spend the equivalent of four years of their lives sitting in traffic jams or standing in trains because they live in one place and Work in another. It will benefit your health and your pocket to live nearer your job.

There are still six hours out of the twenty-four to account for; two of them are usually spent on routine activities, such as eating meals, doing odd jobs around the house, correspondence, and so on. The remaining four are devoted to some form of recreation.

The first two are probably not exploited as they should be. Meals, for instance. This is one activity where time should not be cut. Civilized people sit around a table instead of retiring to a cubby hole with their food because eating is a social event as well as a nourishment ritual. Discussion and conversation will feed the mind, while gulping down the food in sullen silence will increase nervous tension and aggravate weariness. When the meal has been digested there is little benefit in sitting around in taciturn misery while the coffee or tea gets cold and the cigarette bums down to its tip. If you don’t feel like resuming activity, at least put your brain to some constructive use.

Now the four hours remaining for recreation. To any lively, active person it is appalling to know that millions of British people watch TV for more than four hours per day. There is obviously nothing wrong, and much right, about TV as a home entertainment, but nothing can conceivably be transmitted which will merit watching for nearly 1,500 hours a year.

Those four hours of independence from duties and necessary tasks every day should be used in a variety of activities which will lend spice to life. Hobbies can broaden the mind and provide a contrast to one’s job; entertainment away from home can meet every human being’s need to be gregarious, and will stimulate new cultural interests; evening classes or personal study can pave the way to a better or more suitable job, and will certainly open the gate to a fuller life; walking, gardening, and sports will produce a healthy body, and therefore improve the health df the mind inside it.

Nobody needs to run his life to a strict timetable. Extremists who plan their day to the minute and draw up plans of activities for weeks and months ahead are usually heading for neurotic troubles. They really loathe what they are doing, and can only do it by cruelly disciplining themselves with ruthless regimentation. In any event, they are so busy observing their own rules that they get little done easily, quickly, or efficiently.

A flexible scheme of day-to-day living, with all the extraneous trivia and bouts of supine laziness cut out, after a period of frank self-examination, can transform both the present situation and the future prospects.

Let’s work through a typical day and see how much time we can gain. First, why not get up fifteen minutes earlier? Almost always the chronic stay-abed person is suffering from psychological malaise, not a physical one of tiredness. Few girls lie in on their wedding morning; no man expecting a big cheque from a pools firm is under the blankets when the postman comes. Remember how ready you were to get up on that glorious morning on last summer’s holiday? Or your eagerness to get active when the kids were impatient to have their Christmas presents?

Contrast this reaction to that on a wintry Monday morning when another dreary working week is beginning, or your lethargy when wakefulness meant resumption of a quarrel with a relative.

Yet on both good and bad mornings the amount of sleep and the duration of rest were much the same. Physically there was no difference. Mentally you either longed for the day ahead or you dreaded it.

Whatever the day holds in store—and as Time is moving at its usual pace there is no evading the day’s events—getting up fifteen minutes earlier than is your usual habit will enable you to start this cycle of living right. For one thing it will eradicate the need for rush, and haste is at the bottom of the nervous tension and frustration causing you to feel that nothing is going as it should. Getting up with fifteen glorious minutes in hand can be a pleasant, health-giving activity. You can stretch, take the trouble with your toilet and dressing which your self-esteem merits, enjoy instead of gobbling your breakfast, walk briskly instead of running to the bus stop or station. By then you will be back to your old schedule, but with fifteen minutes well spent on preparing yourself for it.

Best of all, you will not be late. Punctuality is a virtue of princes ordinary folk ought to emulate. We all know people who seem unable ever to keep a date, catch a train, or be on time.

The more ridiculous of these ‘laters’ deceive them selves into believing that failure to keep an appointment or catch a train makes them appear busy and important. The average unpunctual person is a misery, arriving tense, worried, and ashamed, usually disheveled.

‘It’s been such a hectic morning,’ they moan; or, ‘I’ve been so terribly busy time seemed to fly.’ They omit to explain why the morning was so hectic or what they have been so busy doing because they know that the explanation would sound trivial. The truth is that they have been rushing around making mountains out of molehills and busy spending time on minor activities which they ought to have dealt with as incidental People who get through a fantastic amount of work always seem to have the time for it and are ready dead on schedule for the next task. If you really need help, go to someone whose reputation in providing the kind of service you require is so great that he is up to his eyes in work. He will always find time for you, on time, and for the minimum amount of time needed to deal with your problem.

He is not the type who moans about never having a minute. He knows he has sixteen waking hours a day—960 minutes to use as he wants.

As he wants. Those words are important. He will not cram the day with the work which is his means of livelihood or vocation. There will be contrast, relaxation, other interests. Probably the activity with which he has made his reputation occupies quite a small part of the day compared with the routine of those who rush around for as long as their strength allows in the belief that being busy for long periods means getting somewhere. It doesn’t, except in circles.

The successful person plans his day’s work, restricting it to what he knows there is time to deal with adequately, and while he is engaged on it, refusing to be diverted into by-ways of chit-chat, day dreaming, and frustrating tasks which are beyond his powers or impossible in the time available.

The last point is vital for peace of mind. ‘Sufficient for the day is the labour thereof’ and it is frustrating to go to your rest with hopes unfulfilled and tasks unaccomplished. Nature, in her wisdom, has divided our year into 365 installments, and our lives into seventy or so years. To a great extent each day, like each year, is a complete life cycle and is complete in itself. Failure to realize the hopes for the day or the ambitions for the year gives a sense of frustration and incompleteness, just as completion of what you set out to do brings relief and satisfaction.

People who apparently thrive under well-nigh in tolerable burdens or manage to persist in a Herculean task which occupies half a lifetime know this.

The head of a country would become a gibbering wreck of a man if he tried to tackle all the problems of state at once. He flourishes under his burden, despite the fact that he is often of an age when lesser men are putting themselves out to grass, because he deals with the job immediately in hand with 100 percent energy and attention and mentally files all the others in the pending tray.

Scientists probing across unknown frontiers of knowledge ease forward a few equations or experiments at a time; the world’s greatest books are created a few hundred words per day; a sports champion builds up his prowess by months of carefully planned training undertaken in brief installments.

None of these triumphs of mind and muscle could ever be achieved if they were rushed or forced into a time span too short for their achievement. Equally none would be possible without some planning.

Nobody can know what tomorrow will bring, but no one need let tomorrow take care of itself completely. While each day is complete in itself it obviously affects the next one and the one after that for a long, long time ahead. Sometime today you need to take a breather while you cogitate on tomorrow’s activities. If you make a few preparations for these tasks they will be all the more easier on the morrow. The simple instances are of the busy housewife who lays the breakfast-table overnight, the girl who chooses what clothes she will wear the night before she will wear them; the man who fills his brief-case with all he expects to need at the office next day.

Better than these visible examples of planning are the mental resolutions made on what you would like to achieve next day, modified by what you feel it will be feasible to do. Given its evening briefing, your mind will utilize its unconscious powers to get things ship shape while you are asleep. ‘I’ll sleep on that problem’ is a common and sensible observation by people who cannot see a solution right away. Things look better in the morning, not because they are any better, but because the wonderful resilience and resourcefulness of the human mind produce solutions where previously none seemed to exist.

In getting your daily activities for the day and the’ planning for tomorrow’s tasks on a practical, methodical basis don’t let yourself become a slave of time and routine. Some people think better early in the day, and some are at their peak of mental energy in the evening. Some are refreshed by going early to bed and rising early; some burn the midnight oil to their great! profit and recharge their batteries by steeping far into the morning. It is bad luck that the majority of us are restricted by employers’ rules and domestic commitments to adopt conventional periods of work, play, rest, and sleep. If you are not so restricted and find you achieve more by following an unconventional timetable go ahead and do so. Others will soon be envying both your freedom and your success.

Whatever your routine there is one certainty; you will benefit by regular periods of relaxation, taken from that allocation of four hours for recreation. Industrial output usually drops when tea breaks are abolished. The lunch hour is a better investment than the luncheon half hour. Sunday as a day of rest is not just a religious notion but a vital recuperative period enabling seven days’ work to be easily achieved in six.

Probably there is little likelihood of your adopting that midday siesta which is still the practice of more than a third of humanity, and you have no chance of taking a day off when you feel it would be of genuine benefit in order to refresh your mind and body. But everyone can relax for a few minutes at a time on several occasions every day. Do so whenever you feel tense. Check whether your hands are clenched, jaw rigid, foot going to sleep through lack of movement, eyes aching, breathing quick and shallow. If you are experiencing these physical clues to tension it is odds on that your mind is nagging you with worries and you are feeling frustrated.

If you sit at a desk or factory bench stand up and walk around, stretch, and consciously flex the muscles of face, hands, arms, and legs. If you stand or move around in your job take the weight off your feet, and preferably don’t transfer it to your bottom; lie down.

Relax your eyes by opening and closing them rapidly. Ease away that frown and tautness by talking to somebody or laughing at something. Cleanse away the grime of the world and the cobwebs around your mind by a wash and brush-up——not just a dabbing of the face and soaping of the hands but a real ablution, removing some of your outer clothes if possible.

Don’t worry about criticism if some of these things have to be done in the face of witty comments from friends and colleagues. You’ll be more vigorous and happier than they are at the end of the day. And a lot more successful at the end of the year.

It may take you weeks to harness the potentialities you have been given to make every day worth while. But long before then you will find your attitude to life changing. It will no longer be a sort of prison sentence you have to carry out, but an adventure for which you are given renewed installments of energy and zest every morning.

There’s another vital factor to deal with once you have decided to make your daily life meaningful. It will not help you to achieve success simply by model ling yourself on some admired, famous, or successful person. You may have a different sort of personality from your chosen ideal. So it is essential to know what kind of person you are.

Learn to Take Care of Yourself Mentally and Physically

How difficult it is for us to surrender to the fact that we cannot defy physical, mental, and moral laws without being hurt any more than we can defy the laws of physics and expect no harmful results.

No person in his right mind would jump from a high elevation or purposely walk into a fire. And yet this same person who would never dream of defying the laws of gravity or heat is often care less about laws just as definite and certain.

When we stop to consider, we all realize that it is impossible to “burn the candle at both ends” unless somehow we can add tallow in the middle. So far no one has learned to do this, so we must abide by the laws that nature has given us or suffer the consequences.

The first part of this Code of Living covers the mental attitude with which we should face each day. It is practically impossible to have a beautiful and enthusiastic outlook on life if we have a “heavy head” from intemperance the night before or if we have experienced overwork or lack of sleep.

Do a little self-analysis in this regard. Sometime when you are physically tired or weary from lack of sleep try to get interested in some project of yours that under normal circumstances would provoke great enthusiasm. There is usually a mental and emotional block.

Be honest with yourself and compare the temporary sensations you might receive from defying these laws with the frustrations and loss of a healthy mental attitude. None of us are equipped to meet even our daily problems or make the most of our daily opportunities unless we are feeling our very best.

I need not elaborate on the importance of a happy and optimistic attitude towards life. We actually receive to some extent through mirrored images our own outlook. One of the best examples of this is found in the story of two men who approached the gates of a great city.

The first man asked the keeper of the gates what kind of people lived in the city.

The keeper said, “What kind of people lived in the city which you just left?”

The man’s reply was, “They were terrible people. They hated each other, were jealous of each other, were selfish: They were such horrible people I couldn’t get along with them — in fact, that is the reason I left.”

The keeper shook his head and said, “I’m sorry to tell you but that is exactly the kind of people we have here. You’ll never be happy in this city.”

Upon hearing this the man sorrowfully walked away.

A second man shortly thereafter approached the same gate keeper and asked the same question.

Upon being asked what kind of people he left behind, his reply was, “They were wonderful people. They loved each other, they helped each other. They were thoughtful, kind and under standing. You’ll never find better people on the face of the earth.”

The gate keeper opened the gates as he said, “Come in, my friend. I am glad to tell you we have exactly the same kind of people here. You’ll be happy and feel at home among them.”

You might like to express it in another way. His valuable contribution was this, “I look into the other fellow’s face each morning to find out how I feel.”

Yes, our appraisal of both people and situations is often only a reflection of our own personal outlook in life. I once heard a pastor make the remark that God has given us a world that nothing but our own folly keeps from being a Paradise. It made very little impression upon me at the time but the longer I live the more I realize the impact of its truth.

The choice is ours. We can see life through the rose-colored glasses of the healthy mental and emotional condition which depends to a great extent on our physical being. Or, if we insist on trying to defy the laws of human conduct, we can suffer the consequences.